11/28/2008

Another anniversary and another Thanksgiving...


Another anniversary and another Thanksgiving came and went. We have much to be thankful for, despite our struggles with infertility. Many people spend their lives searching for their soulmate, their one true love. Some people are lucky to find the person they can truly call the better half of themselves, while others spend the rest of their lives searching and never finding. I am happy to count myself among the lucky ones. Last week, Jerry and I celebrated our 15th anniversary.

Deep down as each progressive anniversary approached I was convinced we'd somehow beat the odds. When we did our first IVF, we thought that that was it. All we had to do was IVF and then bammo! I'd get pregnant. Oh to be so naive again... And then the 3 FETs...those cycles were supposed to be "it." And even changing clinics and going to the best one, there are no guarantees.

It wasn't supposed to be this way. This was not supposed to be part of the plan.

7 comments:

Nikki said...

Happy Anniversary Linda!! I hear you about how this was not how it was supposed to be - DH and I will be celebrating our 12th anniversary in a few months, and we too feel this was not we envisioned us today.

However, I too consider myself to be among those lucky ones who find their true soulmate in life, and I am glad that I'm counting and celebrating these anniversaries with the person I love. At least that's something to be happy about!

(I would hate to be counting year after childless year with someone I didn't care too much about!)

Hugs to you! Hope you had a happy thanksgiving. Another few weeks for your CGH results, right?

Lisa said...

Happy 15th!!! WOW!!!!! That's a long time, and you are right, you are so lucky to have found your soul mate. I hope that next year, you are celebrating with a baby in your arms. I have a good feeling about all those frosties you have!!!! I think this is going to be the one!!

Hang in there.

DAVs said...

Wow Happy Anniversary! Lee and I will hit the big 1-5 this summer, so we're right behind you. I feel very very lucky to have found him, as you are. But I am also so bittersweet this Thanksgiving...as it feels like I watch so many other CCRM'ers get their BFPs and I keep wondering why not us? But I'm so happy you have all those frozen embryos to work with...and hoping one of them is your miracle.

retro girl said...

Congrats on the big 1-5 and being with your soulmate - you're right, so much to be grateful for inspite of the infertility craziness. May the wait for your result go by quickly. Hope you had a nice Thanksgiving!

Barb said...

Glad you had a good Thanksgiving!

Well, your "mutt" heritage came out very pretty. :) And since I'm biased toward Filipinos, that's where my mind immediately went. haha.

We are in central Fla.. long way from you.

Heavy heart said...

Happy Anniversary Linda! 15 years of a blissful marriage is not just God's grace but also says a lot about a couple's ability to adjust, appreciate and learn from each other. And it takes 2 mature and sensitive people to make a marriage a success. Especially with the added pressure of infertility. If becoming a parent needed a qualification, you guys top the class! It is the kid that is going to be yours that is truly blessed! Here's to you and the lucky kid-to-be!

onemuse said...

Hi Linda--it's Liz C. from the old pcolamoms board! I'm glad you're blogging--reading this all seems so familiar--the terminology, etc. Keeping you in my prayers that one day when you least expect it you'll see a BFP! (((Hugs.)))